My dad taught me when I was a child that you drive your own bus. I was in elementary school and I would come home and he would ask me how my day went and I would say “horrible” and he would ask why and I would say that someone wouldn’t do what I wanted them to do or whatever the reason was. And he would always respond with “you drive your own bus”. He explained to me back then that many people play the victim role in life and blame others for their problems. Instead one should accept responsibility for their own life, grab a hold of the steering wheel and direct your own life and happiness or sadness, whichever you choose.
Someone wrote me the other day something I found profound:
“Any reliance on outer conditions to make us happy is just a form of negativity addition”
You make yourself happy. Not someone else. It’s your bus, your life, and no one else can determine how you feel. Live your life for you and no one else 
"Don't seek happiness. If you seek it, you won't find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is rather than making up stories about it. Unhappiness covers up your natural state of well-being and inner peace, the source of true happiness." ~ Eckhart Tolle
